How to deal with children who are wayward and stubborn

Facing Child The Naughty And Stubborn - Psychology of Children.
There was a time when children aged 2-5 years as a wayward parent and stubborn. This is a very natural phase of growth during the child's psychological, because this is the phase in which children begin to realize that he is a person who is independent of the adults, especially parent.

The causes of child wayward and stubborn :

Imitate him too stubborn parents, or children often witnessed her parents' quarrel. Parents too indulgent, always provide what the child wants. A time when the desire is not fulfilled, the child will certainly protest and fight. The absence of a bond of love and understanding between parents and children. Parents too familiar with them devotion to something fanatically. Children are too often told to succumb, without giving sense to make him understand. Some parents complain about the stubborn nature of her son. They are confused how to advise them. When forbidden to do something they will go berserk, or even against.

How to deal with children who are wayward and stubborn :

√ See ourselves (as a parent).

Sometimes we do not realize when our baby has a hard heart, one reason is ourselves. If we have a hard heart, difficult advised, of course, indirectly it will also rub off on ourselves our baby. When the baby every day we see this, certainly over time our baby will imitate. If we today are too boastful, let us humble ourselves. If we are less willing to listen to other people, then let us begin now to learn to listen. So we will also be increasingly understood the needs of our baby, with a willing and providing time for our baby. Let more flexible, more compassionate and understanding to children. A child's need is actually not much. Actually child so want attention and affection we as parents. Affection and attention is enough to minimize the needs of children on the "material". So when the child begins to ask this, it is easy to whine, and quickly tired of what he bought, it is actually an expression or effect of any portion of their hearts are empty. And in fact part of the empty heart can only be filled with love and warmth that is in a family.


√ Distributes hobby

Each child would have different talents and interests. As parents we must be careful to understand this. For example, if our baby doodled on paper, start trying to enter our baby on the studios to paint. Normal children, usually have "redundancy". That is why we often see children difficult to silence. Children will always move, and seek preoccupation its can do. So set your "residual force" that exists within the baby. This will be very useful so that their emotions can be directed to things that are positive. This will greatly reduce the negative influences from outside which could cause them irritable, bored, sad, and other properties.


√ Be wise man.

Wise parents have a sensitivity to her baby, always trying to do our best and give the best choice for the baby. The best thing for the child, sometimes not the best for parents. Here sometimes we find misunderstandings between parents and children. In order for selection of parents and children be in harmony, it is necessary once the intense communication. This is where your time is needed. Not much time you give to a child, but the quality of your togetherness in children. Of this closeness, you will better understand your baby. So that our thinking with the baby we can be united, and minimize misunderstandings that usually occurs because of the "boundary" between parents and children. And from this proximity, you can advise a child with sage.


√ Not Shaming Children Home General.

When advising children, it o be better if we advise him in a secret place and in a gentle voice. Do not give a ban, but rather an appeal. Do not say, "You can not draw on the wall", but say "If you like to draw tomorrow mama traded big picture book.” Expecting a child changed by humiliating them in public places is not the way a good advise. Because at that moment, we have to teach children that embarrass other people in public places is something reasonable.



√ Not Forcing.

We must learn to say something to our baby gently without any element of coercion. We must learn to persuade rather than telling. Because the order means asking someone to do something and it has to be done while we are not willing to do the same. While invited, is to ask someone to do something and wants to be one with the people we ask to the principles of togetherness.


√ Advise Kids On Right Now.

The right time is something that is important and we need to consider when we want to advise our baby. Choose the right moment where we could transfer the "moral science" we told our baby, no they felt compelled. An example is to encourage the baby to the streets. After he was pleased, and feel hungry, you can invite eating together. And that's when you can talk and say your expectations on the baby. For example, by saying, "Mama like it when you're dressed. You look beautiful. "Or to praise him," Well ... Son mama was great and added adults, are able to feed themselves,". With the inducement-provocation like that, usually the child will be more interested to want to listen to your advice, so that for the future they can be changed little by little. Be balanced in educating children. Not too indulgent, but not too hard. Giving a gift to a good attitude and impose penalties if he committed violations. Always try to make the child's heart happy and excited, but not excessive. Do not be arbitrary, in the sense of not having the child or allowing the child to do something, but then forbid children to do so at a later time.




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