Patterns of parenting has always been a debate for parents. Now, since the law (Act), which regulates the punishment child abuse cases, was developed in the public debate about the difference in how to educate children by individuals who become parents. If the older generation may be used to get lazy strokes of the cane while studying or cleaning the house, so different from the situation today. In fact, most parents recognized the old days, how to educate children as it can make the child mentally tougher for the challenges of life. Loud intention here is certainly not always the physical violence, but also discipline and high specificity when parenting. Then, really hard educating children make children more resilient and successful?
A change of era that can no longer be equated between the past and present era. Therefore, the current parenting styles need to adapt to the current era. Child's past and present era differed his fighting power. "First child tends to be more persistent and resilient, but the cause is not as hard and rough upbringing, but rather the difference in era",said by Ayoe Sutomo (psychiatrists / psychologists).
said,Ayoe : "The previous generation, ease of access and the facilities are very limited recognized". To get something, too hard, unlike now that access to all the facilities become easier. "This condition according to indirectly change the paradigm of children over the result oriented and must quickly", Ayou. Meanwhile, the grandmother or generation times our parents do not get accustomed to the ease of access to the facility, then consider the struggle to have something is normal. Quite a different opinion also expressed by a young psychologist, Adina Reska Budiani. Adina said, "explained that indeed there are some examples of cases, unfortunately, can not be ascertained 100% the reason". Admittedly, the way to educate children is hard to make children more resilient and successful than those who are too gentle, indulgent, or impressed succumbing to children.
Hard does not mean having to hit. Hard here meant to teach the child that's got something requires hard work and goodwill. "Do not get used to teach her child got his wish without trying and learning", said Adina. Furthermore, Adina said that to educate children as hard as this is what makes the child actually has more mentally tough, but without making the child physically hurt or suffer. The most common example is to apply a prize if the child diligent study or hobby plus. Provide facilities according to the needs of child development are not excessive, but it is also not sufficient.
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